BY EMILY MAY, Executive Director of Hollaback!
For six years now I’ve read every single story submitted to Hollaback!. They have inspired me, made me cry, and made me rage. But the ones that frustrate me the most are the ones where people blankly watched the harassment happen and never offered to help.
Here are a few examples:
When a 16-year-old realized that she and her friend were alone in a park with a masturbating man she said, “The mothers in the park automatically caught on and left, without saying anything to my friend and I.”
When a young woman was stalked and verbally assaulted she wrote, “There were a number of people waiting in the train station lobby that were viewing the interaction, but yet I felt alone.”
And when a woman was surrounded and verbally harassed by a large group of young men she wrote, “What bothers me most about it is that it wasn’t some dark lonely street. It was early evening on a crowded street and no one seemed to notice.”
The failure of bystanders to act causes a double whammy of traumatization. First, you have some crappy thing happen to you. Then, you realize that no one cares, and that they are all just starring at you, doing nothing.
The silence from bystanders normalizes the harassment and leaves you thinking: Do they think it’s your fault? That you’re skirt was too short, or you were out to late at night? And as if that’s not bad enough, then you start question yourself and wonder if they are right.
Over 15% of the stories on our site talk about this phenomenon called the “bystander effect.” People hope that someone else will intervene, and even when they know they won’t they feel like it’s not safe or the “woman wouldn’t want it.” There is this idea that if you want to intervene you need to strap on a superhero costume, swoop in, and beat everyone up. But really it just means asking the person if they are OK, if there is anything that you can do.
Hollaback! is launching the “I’ve Got Your Back” campaign to show bystanders how to intervene, and to celebrate when they do by mapping their stories. Join us as we build a world where we all have each other’s backs.
Here’s more on the “I’ve Got Your Back” campaign.
This article is from Care 2, submitted by Jaime-Alexis and written by the woman pictured here, Emily May:
January 23, 2012
First and foremost, I want to thank you all for investing in Hollaback!. Your contributions have been critical over the past year and a half as we have built this organization from the ground-up. We take your investment in our work very seriously. To keep you informed about the impact of your investment, we are starting a series of donor-exclusive emails that are designed to give you a monthly snapshot of our organizational and movement-building progress.
In the past month we:
-- Launched our fifth training class of Hollaback! site leaders. They come from Brussels, Belgium; Edmonton, Canada; Halifax, Nova Scotia, San Fransisco, California; and Portsmouth in the UK, and will officially launch their sites in April following completion of their training. They will join our community of over 150 site leaders in 44 cities, 16 countries, and 9 different languages.
-- Raised $15,000 in our end of year campaign (thank you to the 307 of you who donated)! We also received generous support from the Caruso Foundation and the Valentine Perry Snyder Foundation to advance our work here in New York City.
-- Published our first annual “State of the Streets” report, highlighting our progress in 2011. The report can be found here:http://www.ihollaback.org/blog/2011/12/21/introducing-our-first-annual-state-of-the-streets-report/
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